When it comes to sexuality, we can state that the vast majority of us masturbate. Some more, some less. Sometimes to relax, sometimes to sleep better, and sometimes to enjoy ourselves and indulge in pleasure. Of course, masturbation can take place individually or in company, this makes it a very versatile practice.
Masturbation can help you to explore yourself, as well as your body, to discover new ways of touching yourself, caressing yourself, getting aroused or even reaching orgasm. It is a form of self-knowledge and, of course, of autoeroticism.
Sometimes we touch ourselves simply out of a need to let off steam, but on such occasions we don’t resort to novel techniques or alternatives. We usually just keep practicing the same old ways we have known that could provide us with immediate satisfaction.
However, what happens when we are able to masturbate, having the time and space to let our mind recreate itself? In this article we will discuss some of the many techniques for masturbation that go beyond the conventional and that you can adopt and adapt to your life and your ways of getting aroused.
Remember that a great way to escape from routine is by innovating and changing activities in our daily lives, as we suggested in the article on Routine in couples: why it happens and how to avoid it. However, you don’t need a partner to be willing to try new things and introduce different habits in your routine.
That being said, in this article you will find seven ways of stimulating yourself to make masturbation fun and pleasurable in equal parts, you decide how long you want it to last and whether to do it alone or accompanied. Some masturbations are penis specific and others suitable for all types of genitalia. So without further ado, let’s get to work!
1. Temperature change
This is a fairly simple technique: start stimulating yourself as usual, with one hand, but have some ice cubes ready in the other hand, or something cold. Next, switch hands during masturbation as soon as you feel you are approaching climax.
The reason behind this temperature contrast is to enhance the experience through stimulation and enjoy new sensations. In addition, this practice increases the length of the masturbation activity. This technique can be used on both penises and vaginas.
2. Tantric masturbation
This technique is not only useful to develop for individual masturbation, but it is also a very good training prior to tantric sex with a partner, since it requires a good mastery of the method.
The theory is quite simple (the difficulty comes with practice): masturbate as you usually do and stop when you feel you reach the point of no return. By stopping, we mean ceasing stimulation or touching your genitals. Stop until you feel that you regain control over your arousal. You can make as many stops as you want. It is up to you to determine whether you want to orgasm or not, but if you do orgasm, you will probably experience it much more intensely.
3. Manual rings (for penises)
First of all, you must place your thumb and forefinger and shape them as if they were a ring and apply lubricant or an oil to reduce friction. The practice itself consists of sliding the fingers along the base of the penis and gliding up to the glans, alternating between the left and right hands.
These movements go in only one direction, so at first it may be a strange sensation, being used to bidirectional movements, but we assure you that this technique can help you reach orgasm in a different way than you are used to.
4. Testicular stimulation
Did you know that you can stimulate the testicles during masturbation? For many people, the testicles are delicate, ticklish, or just don’t appeal to you. However, this activity will allow you to experience new sensations by being able to feel your ejaculation with another part of your body. That is why, a few seconds before reaching ejaculation, we will place the hand that’s free under the testicles and grab them gently to be able to perceive the changes that occur during the orgasm phase.
5. Handkerchief of silk (for penis)
Yes, we can play with textures too. It’s very easy: using a handkerchief or cloth made of a soft material, such as silk. Cover the penis with it and masturbate. The sensation of smoothness and comfort is achieved without relying on oils or lubricants.
6. Prostate stimulation
The prostate? We have already talked about it in another post, but we can’t exclude it from this list in which we talk about types of masturbation. So, if you want to know what it is, where it is located exactly and how to stimulate it in order to achieve intense orgasms, we recommend you to take a look at it.
First, use plenty of lubricant on the finger or fingers with which we are going to stimulate ourselves. Gloves can also be useful if we want to get a softer sensation and avoid scratches from rubbing against the nails.
Now gently insert your lubricated finger (or fingers) into your anus, and press on the front wall of your rectum (the one just behind your genitals). You may find it a bit hard to locate the prostate at first, or you may find it gives you strange sensations. When you find it, allow your body some time to get used to it, and it should eventually feel comfortable – you can always learn more in the section on the P-spot in our article on Male Erogenous Points. That’s when you can start the next step.
At this point, gently massage your prostate in circular motions. If you find it difficult to stay aroused at first, it may be helpful to stimulate your penis at the same time as you perform these movements. This can be especially useful to get the feeling of pleasure and enjoyment we need to experience masturbation with satisfaction. By mastering this technique you will be able to achieve orgasms without penile stimulation, so we encourage you to at least practice it.
7. Fruit masturbation
When it comes to masturbation (almost) anything goes, including fruit! Taking a number of factors into account, such as cleanliness, the type of fruit or the condition of the piece of fruit. We’re not recommending that you waste food to masturbate, but if you bought tasteless watermelon or melon and don’t know what to do with it, maybe it’s time to experiment with these fruits. You can drill holes in them and use them as a masturbator. The banana skin can also serve as a material to stimulate you with different textures.
And if you have a vulva, you can try stimulating yourself with a slice of watermelon or melon and stimulate your labia and clitoris with it. These sensations are very similar to oral sex with tongue, so enjoy your imagination!
Author: Andrés Suro (Sexual Coach at MYHIXEL)
Psychologist specialized in the social area and expert in sexology applied to education.
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