Surely you have heard that woman have difficulties reaching orgasm during sexual encounters, but you may not know is that men have difficulties as well and it’s called male anorgasmia. You may be wondering: How do I know if I have anorgasmia? Have you experienced decreased pleasure intensity? Are you not enjoying your sexual encounter despite ejaculating? If you want to know how to identify if you are experiencing anorgasmia, keep reading.
What is male anorgasmia?
Anorgasmia is the absence or the difficulty to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse. It is important to note that the lack of ejaculation (or anejaculation) is not the same as the absence of male orgasm, although they are often closely linked, since many men reach orgasm through ejaculation. However, the following concepts should be kept in mind:
- Anejaculation: defined as the inability to ejaculate despite sexual stimulation.
- Delayed ejaculation: there is a difficulty in ejaculating despite sexual stimulation.
- Retrograde ejaculation: ejaculation is not expelled outward, but is directed inward into the bladder.
- ‘Tantric’ ejaculation: this is a technique that aims at not expelling the ejaculation and thus prolonging the encounter.
All of them have in common the total or partial absence of ejaculation, but this doesn’t mean that there has to be a lack of orgasm or pleasure. Male orgasm is related to the contractions that occur during sexual response which provide the sensation of pleasure. Generally, both processes, ejaculation and male orgasm, occur at the same time, although they can also occur separately.
It should be added that anorgasmia is not synonymous with impotence or erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction refers to the inability to achieve or maintain erection during encounters, while anorgasmia is the absence of orgasm. Although the best way to understand what is male anorgasmia is to know its possible symptoms.
Symptoms of male anorgasmia
Of course, the symptoms will also be different depending on the person and specific characteristics, but there are a number of common signs for the vast majority and they can serve to guide you:
- Inability to reach orgasm despite sexual arousal
- Difficulty ejaculating and absence of pleasure during ejaculations
- Avoidance or disinclination to initiate sexual encounters
- The attitude toward sex is one of frustration, irritation, or even anxiety
- Relationship damaged by communication problems and inability to face reality
To better understand these nuances, check out the following point the types of male anorgasmia
Types of anorgasmia in men
There are different types of anorgasmia, which we can classify depending on the origin and intensity. By origin we refer to the moment in which the anorgasmia began to occur, distinguishing between primary and secondary:
- Primary anorgasmia: those people who have never experienced an orgasm, neither during intercourse nor self-stimulation.
- Secondary anorgasmia: in this case, people have had orgasms throughout their lives but have stopped experiencing them at some point.
If we look at the intensity or presence of anorgasmia in certain situations, the classification would be as follows:
- Relative anorgasmia: orgasm can be reached through certain practices or erotic stimulation techniques, for example, through masturbation or exclusively with a partner.
- Situational anorgasmia: the person reaches climax in specific situations or circumstances, such as closed spaces, dark environments, etc.
- Absolute anorgasmia: refers to the total inability to reach orgasm in any way.
But to better understand anorgasmia in men, the possible causes should be addressed.
Causes of male anorgasmia
When we talk about the causes of anorgasmia in men we have to understand that it can be a consequence of psychological, physiological, neurological or even medical factors. In short, each case is particular, but we can make the following classification:
1. Psychological factors
Stress is the main reason for loss of desire, which affects our libido. Likewise, depressed moods have similar consequences. It should be noted that there may be a total absence of orgasms if the intensity of these psychological states increases.
Here we can also include relationship problems, low self-esteem, strict religious beliefs, high sexual expectations and traumas related to sexuality. In general, all psychological reasons that can alter our state of mind.
2. Physiological factors
Variations in testosterone levels can also affect testosterone levels, particularly sharp drops. Although they are more common with age (especially after the age of 50), pronounced drops can occur in young people for other reasons, such as hypogonadism, a condition that results in low or no testosterone production. There are also problems related to low sensitivity to erotic stimulation, as in the case of people who have undergone genital surgery.
3. Neurological factors
Diseases such as diabetes in very advanced stages, sclerosis or myelitis, can lead to anorgasmia. However, these reasons are usually the least common.
4. Drugs and other substances
The consumption of some treatments is often linked to a loss in the sensation of pleasure, which in extreme cases can lead to anorgasmia in men. The medications that most often cause this are antidepressants.
On the other hand, the abuse of certain substances such as alcohol and cannabis, affect the quality of our sexual activity, which can lead to anorgasmia.
But is there a solution for male anorgasmia?
Treatments for anorgasmia in men
The fact that there are so many elements that affect or interfere with anorgasmia implies that there are multiple treatments and methodologies to solve it, so the effectiveness of each one of them depends on the origin of the problem.
It should be made clear that there is no specific treatment for male anorgasmia. Most likely, a broad approach is needed to help us improve our sex life from all possible areas, both physical and mental. To do this, a common guideline we can offer you is to do some introspection: do I only get sexual pleasure through orgasm, are my encounters less satisfying if I don’t climax, and so on. Our head is full of beliefs that generate high pressure and do not allow us to move forward.
This does not mean that it is not necessary to go to a professional. A specialist has the necessary knowledge to determine the cause and know which is the treatment that best suits your characteristics. That is why we offer you MYHIXEL Clinic, a completely online service that puts at your disposal health professionals who are experts in male sexuality who will give you a personalized treatment.
Usually, when it comes to stress or depression, pleasure, intensity and quality of orgasms are gained again. Something similar happens when male anorgasmia is caused by drugs and/or pharmaceuticals, which remits when the consumption of these is stopped. With therapy, it is possible to alleviate and reduce these factors to recover our sexual activity.
But, what things are addressed in therapy? On one hand, sex education is usually necessary to get rid of those beliefs that are not true about our sexuality. This usually has a positive impact on our self-esteem, which is closely linked to our capacity for enjoyment. On the other hand, during the sessions we can develop skills and strategies to improve and increase our pleasure during encounters, both individually and as a couple.
Anorgasmia is, without a doubt, something that can worry us, but we have to remember that our sexuality goes far beyond orgasm. Enjoying a diverse and rich sexual activity is part of our eroticism, so putting ourselves in the hands of sexology specialists will lead us to have a life full of pleasure and, why not, reach that longed-for climax we all dream of.