The first time you have sex is the beginning of a whole new stage in life, as well as an important milestone in human development. A study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy in 2013 indicates that the first sexual encounter can set the tone for the rest of one’s sex life. In addition to this, having it either too early or too late can also have implications for your sexual health in the future. We can’t deny that there are so many fears, expectations, emotions, and questions that arise when we decide to start having sex for the first time. For that reason, in this article, we’ll give you some great tips on first-time sex, and how to enjoy the start of a healthy sexual life.
Main fears regarding first-time sex
Climaxing too soon is one of a man’s main fears when it comes to having sex for the first time. Nervousness and anxiety about the first sexual encounter, as well as not knowing about the other person’s sexual tastes and practices, can often cause a number of problems. There may be difficulty in maintaining sexual excitement, causing erection problems, or problems in reaching orgasm. On the other hand, over-excitement may cause men to ejaculate too quickly – before they really wanted to – during their first sexual encounter. This is called premature ejaculation. However the more relaxed you feel, the more you’ll be able to control your ejaculation.
In cases like these, it really does help if your first sexual encounter is with someone you trust. Also, with all the first-time nerves, it’s easy to forget about contraception. However, you simply must use a condom, which, as well as avoiding any unexpected “surprises”, will prevent the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.
The importance of foreplay and thinking about your partner
Focusing on foreplay is one of the keys to enjoying your first sexual experience. Foreplay consists of different sex games or activities you carry out prior to intercourse and is essential in order to become more confident with your partner. Remember that the goal of a sexual encounter isn’t specifically penetration, but, rather, to achieve maximum sexual pleasure and enjoy sex.
The place and the moment are also important aspects that will help to reach this objective. That’s why you should look for the perfect place and opportunity that will help you to relax and make your partner feel comfortable. Never have first-time sex when there’s the danger you may be seen or where someone could walk in on you at any moment. And, even though there’s no pre-ordained age for having first-time sex, it’s essential that you really do feel ready to take this step. If you don’t, then you won’t enjoy the experience.
Manage your expectations
Most men face their first sexual encounter with their only experience being what they’ve seen on porn videos. They may be aware that it’ll be impossible for them to recreate most of what they’ve seen there, as these videos just don’t reflect what really happens when most couples have sex. However, that initial idea, based on what they’ve seen, brings with it a whole series of expectations that can lead to disappointment in real life. So, forget about all those sexual fantasies and just focus on the missionary position, which is the most ideal and comfortable position for your first time, especially as it’s a position that lets you progress bit by bit. As time goes on, you’ll gain more and more experience and confidence to start trying out other sex positions.