Do you cum too fast?
Cumming too soon is a major issue for many men today. Not being able to control your climax might transform sex from a pleasurable experience into an embarrassing one!
But don’t worry.
Premature ejaculation (PE) is far more common than you’d imagine!
While it’s frustrating, there are multiple ways to address it. There are techniques and new technologies focused on helping you regain your sexual performance safely and effectively.
In this article, we’ll help you understand PE, its causes and what you can do to solve it.
Here’s what we’ll cover:
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- What is Premature Ejaculation?
- The Types of Premature Ejaculation
- The Causes of Premature Ejaculation
- The Solutions to Premature Ejaculation
Let’s get started.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
There’s no standard definition for PE.
Because the term “premature” is very relative.
However, in most cases, people describe PE as reaching climax sooner than someone or their partner would like.
How Common Is It?
When talking about men’s health, premature ejaculation is a common issue. Although it’s hard to know the exact numbers, some studies show that over 33% of men have experienced premature ejaculation at some point in their lives.
The Types of Premature Ejaculation
There are primarily two types of PE:
People with lifelong premature ejaculation have always had a tendency to cum too fast ever since they were sexually active. A lifelong premature ejaculator usually ejaculates in under 3 minutes and may even climax before the 60-second mark or during foreplay.
Acquired premature ejaculation is the more common form of PE. A man with Acquired PE has had longer sexual encounters in the past but now finds that he cums earlier than before. This condition may get worse with age.
The Causes Of Premature Ejaculation
Until recently, people attributed premature ejaculation to psychological factors. However, we’ve now found biological causes may also affect a small percentage of the population, especially those who cum too fast due to lifelong premature ejaculation.
With that being said, there’s no one cause that leads to PE.
Here’s a look at a few of the most common ones:
A. Psychological and Psychosocial Issues
Most instances of premature ejaculation are related to psychological factors such as:
- Anxiety and stress: Many men with premature ejaculation issues have also reported anxiety issues. Anxiety and stress over ejaculating too fast can worsen the problem.
- Novelty of a relationship and overexcitement: Excitement over a new partner or a new experience can cause it too. An overly excited man usually cums too fast as he finds it harder to control himself.
- Inexperience: Younger men may not have the sexual experience to know how to anticipate and control their orgasms. Usually, if young men can’t resolve this in their first few encounters, this can become a regular issue.
- Preconditioning: Masturbating quickly or intentionally speeding up sexual encounters can condition the body to reach climax more quickly. This can happen with men with erectile dysfunction since they may want to finish before the erection goes away.
- Issues with body or self: Lack of self-confidence is also tied to anxiety – leading to performance issues.
B. Penile Sensitivity
While this is relatively rare, hypersensitivity in the penis can also cause you to cum faster.
Hypersensitivity is not always permanent and may be caused by several issues like urinary infections or trauma to the penis.
C. Chemical Imbalances and Biological Reasons:
A small minority of men experience premature ejaculation due to chemical or biological factors like:
- Abnormal hormone levels
- Medical conditions like prostate/urethra issues.
- Chemical imbalances in brain centers
D. Other Causes
Alcohol and drugs can affect semen quality and production, as well as cause irregularities in ejaculation.
While there’s no clear-cut reason for PE, feelings of guilt, shame or anxiety can worsen the problem.
That’s why, instead of feeling down about cumming too fast, you need to know that it’s common, it’s not your fault and, most importantly, that you can do something about it.
The Solutions To Premature Ejaculations
Here are a few of the most common solutions for men suffering from PE:
1. Scientifically Proven Methods (MYHIXEL)
MYHIXEL is a revolutionary solution that combines a scientifically proven program via a mobile app and a therapeutic device designed specifically to help you learn to control your ejaculation. Developed in collaboration with the Murcian Sexology Institute, MYHIXEL is a proven, sexual therapy method that’ll help you last up to seven times longer in bed, based on clinical trials!
Tested in over 800 men, this method is completely natural and has no side effects. With MYHIXEL, you’ll be able to train yourself to last longer in bed from the comfort and privacy of your own home!
How does it work?
The anonymized MYHIXEL app lets you to follow a personalized ten-week self-learning program. It enables you to discover your body and teaches you to control the mental and physical aspects of your orgasm – giving you more control over your body.
In addition to the app, you’ll be using a state-of-the-art penile stimulator to help you actively train your body to last longer in bed.
Unlike most other solutions, MYHIXEL puts you in control of your orgasm – making sure that you’re not relying on anything else to help you combat PE!
To learn more about MYHIXEL and how it can help you, click here.
2. Desensitizing sprays and condoms
There are specialized condoms that are thicker and may even have lidocaine or other desensitizing agents to gently numb your penis during sexual intercourse. These can help you combat hypersensitivity and overstimulation.
Potential side effects and cons:
- Enjoyment reduction: While desensitizing items can help, they reduce the pleasurable sensations in your penis. This can reduce the amount of enjoyment you get out of your sex life as you can’t feel as much as you used to.
- Uncomfortable or inconvenient: Some of these condoms and gels can take time to take effect – leading to you waiting for a while before you can initiate sexual contact.
Additionally, these gels may come in contact with your partner and desensitize them as well – leading them to have a less pleasurable experience too.
- Lack of permanent solution: Desensitizing materials can only help you temporarily patch the issue, not solve it permanently.
3. Start-stop method
The start-stop method is fairly simple. Once you feel like you’re getting close to ejaculating, you or your partner stop stimulation.
Potential side effects and cons:
- Not easy nor quick: Most people will take one to three months to successfully implement this technique every time during sex to achieve the desired results.
- It’s frustrating: Suddenly stopping sexual activity can be frustrating for you and your partner.
- Easy to disrupt: It’s very important to keep track of your sexual arousal in this method. If you’re distracted or lose focus, you could overlook when you’re about to ejaculate.
- Hard to achieve by yourself: For this method to truly work, you’ll need a partner with you. You can’t use the start-stop method by yourself to last longer in bed.
4. Squeeze method
The squeeze method is the start-stop method coupled with squeezing the area between the shaft and the head of the penis with your (or your partner’s) thumb and finger. This causes a more immediate stop in arousal to delay ejaculation.
Potential side effects and cons:
- Reduction of erection: In addition to the side effects and disadvantages of the start-stop method, this method may reduce the strength of your erection so it’s not recommended for people with erectile dysfunction.
- Hard to master: To be able to use the squeeze method, you or your partner need to learn the proper technique, which can take time to do correctly.
- Lack of medical studies: Neither the squeeze method nor the start-and-stop method have any medical studies proving their effectiveness.
5. Communication in bed
This method is the easiest to implement.
When you’re about to cum, let your partner know so that you can both ease up a little bit to delay ejaculation and prolong sex.
For example, in most heterosexual encounters, a guy cums earlier than a woman. The average time for a female orgasm can take 5-7 minutes, while the average time for men is only up to 5 minutes. By communicating in bed, you can slowly extend the time it takes the man to cum – helping both partners cum at similar times.
Potential side effects and cons:
- Difficult to implement with new partners: Effective communication in bed takes time to master and when having sex with new partners, you’ll find it difficult to use this method to control your orgasm immediately.
- Not a comprehensive solution: This method may only alleviate the simplest psychological reasons for PE. For more complex mental or physical causes, this may not be a useful method.
6. Pharmaceutical solutions
For many complex psychological and biological causes, medication is a viable solution. For example, most antidepressants contain an SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) which can prolong your orgasm. But as with any medication, you need a doctor’s prescription and may face tons of possible side effects.
However, the problem with medication is that you’ll have to continuously rely on them your entire life. In most cases, once the medication is stopped, the PE effects not only come back but are sometimes worse than before.
That’s why doctors usually prescribe medications as the first stage of treatment to help someone have a positive sexual experience before starting other non-pharmaceutical treatments, like sexual therapy.
Cumming too fast is a common issue and it can be treated.
While there’s no single cause or solution, it’s nothing to be embarrassed or worried about.
New sexual technologies like MYHIXEL make it easy to train and track your constant progress until you gain full control over your orgasms. You can even use some of the other simple techniques we listed here to immediately try and delay your orgasm and last longer in bed!